What is it that makes some people successful in life – able to reach whatever goal they like – while others get stuck in the same place for years, if not decades?
Is it their education? Where they were born? Who their family is? Is it genetics?
The reality is… it’s none of the above!
In my working with thousands of people over the years to help them change their lives – to help them create both financial success and personal fulfillment – I’ve found 7 things in particular that successful people do differently.
I’ve outlined them below. How many of these 7 things are you doing?
1 – They Change How They Think & Feel
Let’s start with how they think:
Talk to anybody who built success in their life and they’ll tell you that they changed their thinking in order to get different results. Every one of us is a product of our thinking. Our finances, relationships, health, happiness, and every other area are dictated by our thinking. If you want a different result in life, you need to change your thinking first.
How they feel:
Very often people get hung up on “thinking like successful people” and forget a key element: what they’re feeling. Listening to your emotions is critical to understanding what is holding you back, both consciously and unconsciously.
Successful people know that our emotions drive everything. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, afraid, stressed, sad, depressed, or any other negative emotion, your brain is less resourceful and less able to help you make good decisions or take important actions. If you want to have more energy, make better decisions, be more creative, and have more success in life…
Develop the habit of paying attention to your emotions. Then do what’s needed to be in the right emotional state (like using Tapping, which we’ll get to later!) 🙂
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2 – They Believe They Deserve Success
Successful people believe they deserve success; unsuccessful people do not.
The area where this is most evident is with money. Financially successful people generally feel they deserve to be successful, and so they’ve created it in their lives.
So what qualifies somebody as “deserving success” or not? Only one thing… the rules they create for it in their own brain.
Oftentimes, people think (consciously or unconsciously) they don’t deserve success because of false beliefs like, “I’m not a good enough person,” or “I don’t work hard enough,” or “I’m not smart enough,” or any other from a laundry list of negative limiting beliefs.
In order to find out what you believe about success just SAY and COMPLETE these two phrases out loud:
- I don’t deserve success because… (say what first comes up, don’t question it)
- I deserve success because… (say what first comes up, don’t question it)
When you say these two phrases out loud, your unconscious brain will give you the reasons that have been programmed as to why you believe one way or the other. If you’re not getting the answer you’d like (or you’re surprised by what’s coming up), don’t worry…
I’ll show you how to change your belief systems around success shortly, all using EFT Tapping!
Remember, at the end of the day every person – and I mean EVERY person – deserves success. Every person is capable of growth, of love, of giving beyond themselves… and being rewarded for it! Anyone can succeed financially, in relationships, with their health, in any area of their life.
I’ll show you how to get there. You can start by downloading my free eBook, 103 Disempowering Beliefs About Money and Success, and How to Eliminate them in Minutes.
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3 – They Overcome Events & Patterns That Don’t Serve Them
Most of the habits, patterns, and beliefs that we have today were developed between the ages of 0 and 6 years old. They weren’t developed consciously, they were essentially downloaded from our parents, and from other people & events happening around us at the time.
We didn’t have a choice about what beliefs were given to us, or events were happening around us. Unfortunately, many of those beliefs, patterns, and experiences were negative and have limited us in our adult life.
Some have had tougher upbringings than others, with more negative experiences and more negative beliefs about themselves and the world, but regardless of the experiences…
There is good news!
Today, as adults, we have a choice over what beliefs, patterns, and habits we want to keep or discard… And we have a choice over the meanings we give our past experiences.
Successful people are aware of how limiting old beliefs, habits, patterns, and experiences can be… and they do whatever it takes to change them!
That doesn’t mean it’s always easy. Overcoming childhood abuse issues, or deep-rooted self-confidence issues, or overwhelmingly negative thought patterns can be a challenge. But successful people are committed to their own growth, no matter what.
They know that the past does not equal the future. They understand that past challenges can either be dwelled upon for years, or accepted as necessary life lessons on their path.
Overcoming limiting beliefs and difficult events from your past is something that EFT Tapping is especially powerful at helping with, more so than any other technique I’ve ever seen.
I’ve had the privilege of using Tapping to help people with some enormous challenges through our Tapping Solution Foundation: Veterans with PTSD, children genocide survivors in Rwanda, first responders of the Sandy Hook school shooting (my home town), and much more.
4 – They Silence Their Critical Voice
A common misconception is that successful people don’t have doubts, that they don’t have a critical voice, that they’re not afraid when they face tough challenges. Reality couldn’t be further from the truth.
Successful people face all of these challenges regularly, and probably more often than unsuccessful people, because of how much they challenge themselves.
They just use tremendous courage to never let it stop them.
The good thing is that courage is a muscle that can be flexed and developed over time. Every successful person had to overcome their critical voice over little things before they moved onto bigger and bigger things.
Building this muscle starts with having the courage to address your critical voice, on anything big or little. Listen to what it has to say… And then overcome it!
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5 – They’re Willing to Fail, Repeatedly
Successful people see failure as part of the learning process. And no matter how much they fail, they’re never willing to quit.
They also never see failure as defining who they are. When unsuccessful people fail, they see themselves as a failure.
Learn to never see yourself as a failure and to see failure itself as a learning process. Then, you’ll never do the one thing you’re avoiding… failing.
“How’s that?” you’re thinking.
Because failing implies that the journey is over. If you see individual failures as a part of a long journey of success, then you, in fact, never actually fail. 🙂
Here’s a list of some of the most successful people ever throughout modern history who never let individual failures stop them:
Henry Ford – Failed in his early business projects and was left broke 5 times before he founded Ford Motor Company.
R. H. Macy – Founder of the Macy’s department store, R.H. Macy started 7 failed businesses before finally hitting it big with his store in New York City.
Walt Disney – Walt Disney was fired by a newspaper editor because “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” After that, he started a number of businesses that didn’t last long and ended with bankruptcy and failure.
Albert Einstein – Einstein didn’t speak until he was four and didn’t read until he was seven, which made his teachers and parents think he was mentally handicapped, slow, and anti-social.
Jerry Seinfeld – The first time he walked on stage he froze and was jeered and booed off the stage. Do you think he quit after that? Nope. The very next night he came back and completed his set to laughter and applause.
I could go on and on with people like this but I think you get it.
Failure never exists IF you see it as part of a long journey of success.
In fact, if you want to hear about how I personally “failed” my way to success, I encourage you to watch this free webinar that I put together just for you!
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6 – They Do the Difficult Things First
Pretty much every person I talk to or come across on a daily basis feels that they have too much going on, that they’re too busy. It seems to just be a part of this modern lifestyle.
When it comes to our time, and what we do with it each day, successful people have one tremendously important trait that makes them successful…
They do the important things FIRST, not the easy things.
If you wait until you have more time to do the important things, you run out of time. It’s why people don’t exercise, or write that book, or start that business.
Successful people prioritize their lives differently. They know that the important stuff is what will get them to where they want to be. They do the big tasks on projects at the beginning of the day, and they leave the emails to later in the day.
If you want to be more successful, learn how to do the tasks that matter first.
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7 – They Take Daily Action
Successful people know that there is tremendous power in clarity.
They get clear on what they want to achieve and who they want to be in life, and they take consistent daily action to get there.
They never let their current limitations stop them from seeing a better future.
Unsuccessful people ruminate on their current situation and challenges. They never allow themselves to have seemingly unrealistic futures.
Successful people allow themselves to dream and then work to get there, even if there isn’t a clear path to achieving what they want.
They also see themselves not just as they are now, but better than they are now! They hold a vision for themselves of how they can grow into being more successful, happier, more giving people.
If you struggle to dream big or find yourself finding reasons for why your dreams can’t come true, don’t worry. Together, we’ll work to eliminate the mental blocks that are keeping you from building an empowering future.
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Where to Start
One of the best ways to begin is reading or listening to the stories of others, to understand how they adopted the 7 steps described above into their own lives. That’s why I want to present to you TWO great resources that I’ve put together to start you on your journey. I hope you enjoy them!
FREE eBook – 103 Disempowering Beliefs About Money and Success and How to Eliminate them in Minutes
Start Tapping Today - Free Guide!
Discover the 103 disempowering beliefs that may be holding you back from achieving the money and success you desire.FREE Webinar – How to Use EFT Tapping to Create an Abundant, Stress-Free, Financial Future Faster Than You Ever Thought Possible…
Until next time…
Keep Tapping!
Nick
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