How often in life do you stuff down negative emotions or feelings about something going on in your present life or about something that has happened in the past?
It’s a common human pattern to stuff things down. We do it to protect ourselves. You’ve done it, I’ve done it, people do it on a daily basis.
The challenge is…
As we continue to stuff things down in our lives, it accumulates and causes more and more problems for us.
We continue to have money problems because we don’t want to address the issues and beliefs we had about money growing up or the fears we have about pushing outside of our comfort zones…
We continue to have weight issues because we push down the feelings we have about ourselves and our bodies…
We continue to suffer from physical pain because of not addressing traumatic events or from deep-seated issues from our childhood…
But while pushing down these emotions down may be less painful in the short term, the long term pain can be overwhelming.
Emotions need to be released. Emotion, or energy in motion, needs to flow through us.
I’m not gonna lie… to truly feel and release these emotions takes guts. But the very fact that you’re reading this, the fact that you’re exploring EFT Tapping, shows me that you have courage far beyond the average person.
When it comes to Tapping, the importance of feeling and really connecting to what’s going on is critically important.
It’s all too easy to do “rote” tapping, just going through the motions and saying the words. And while you can certainly benefit from that, since just the physical tapping itself calms the body and nervous system, if you take the time to really feel what you’re saying, to focus, to be centered and grounded, your results are going to be that much better.
Try it now, even just for a minute or two. Pick a challenge you’re facing. Pick an emotion you’re feeling. Pick an event that you keep thinking about that you can’t seem to let go of.
Pick something that’s stressing you out. Get specific on it, on what you feel exactly, on what happened exactly.
And when you tap and say, “I love, accept, and forgive myself” tune in to what that really feels like.
What does it mean to love yourself?
What does it mean to accept yourself?
What does it mean to forgive yourself?
Especially in light of the problem/challenge/emotion/event that you’re focusing on.
And if you struggle to even say the words and don’t feel that you can love, accept or forgive yourself, know that that is ok too (and perfectly normal). t is feedback that is helping you to know how you truly feel and where you need to release.
If those words are too difficult to say, you can also say “I accept how I feel” or perhaps “I can begin to love myself anyway.” Feel free to soften the language to if it feels too difficult to love, accept or forgive something.
Take a deep breath or two…feel your feet grounded into the earth… And then let’s do some tapping.
Tapping on the Karate Chop: Even though (fill in the blank with the problem/issue/event/emotion), I love, accept, and forgive myself… (Now FEEL it when you say that… try it again, really focusing on the feeling.)
Still on the karate chop: Even though… I’m angry… I have this pain in my back… I can’t stop thinking about what she said to me… I’m so worried about the upcoming deadline…. I love, accept, and forgive myself.
Feel it even more. What do these words actually mean? What’s the feeling in your body when you say them?
One more time on the karate chop point: Even though __________, I love, accept, and forgive myself…
Now, with that feeling, with that focus, with that emotion, tap through the points, simply stating what the issue is:
(these are just examples on every point, fill it in with your own language)
Eyebrow: This issue
Side of the Eye: This anger
Under the Eye: This anxiety
Under Nose: This event that I can’t let go of
Under Mouth: This stressful issue
Collarbone: Feeling it in my body
Under the Arm: Feeling safe to feel it
Top of the Head: And letting it go
Keep tapping until you find the relief you’re looking for, and continue to pay attention to your emotional experience. We’re a “head-centric” society, trying to think our way out of our challenges, our fears, our stress – when we bring the body in, through this physical tapping process, when we take the time to FEEL the emotions, that’s when we can see a dramatic change!
Until next time…
Keep Tapping!
Nick Ortner
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